How to ignite your passion and take action on your goals.

Most people struggle with questions such as ‘how to you define success?’; ‘who do you want to become?’; or ‘what do you want to experience?’.

And yet, everyone knows the feeling of wanting to do something more, be more, or make a difference in the world. We all want to live life to the full, but sadly, most people have never learned how to plan for the life they imagine or decide for themselves what they really want. 

If that sounds familiar, don’t wait for a New Year to tick over. Read on for a ‘how to’ guide, extracted from The Answer.

How to ignite your passion

When you were born you were absolutely clear on what you wanted in life and you refused to let anyone or anything stand in your way of getting to it. If you were hungry, you cried loudly until someone fed you. When you could crawl you fearlessly headed for the door, a toy or a pet you wanted and no one was going to stop you. So what happened between childhood and adulthood? For most, it’s habitual conditioning of the RAS by often well intentioned parents that trains our brain to be compliant to the demands of others.

Fast forward to now. Deciding what you want and discovering what ignites your passion, your desire to get out of bed each day, is the first step to having the life you want.

Here’s how to do it:

1. Write down anything you think you may want to do or achieve, regardless of how trivial it may seem to anyone else.

2. Think about only what you do want, not what you don’t want. And under no circumstances do you think about how you will do something. The how will come later.

3. Create a goals book and add images and text that describes exactly what you want. Look at it every day.

4. If you don’t already love what you do for a job, ask yourself ‘what is the one thing I would do for free?’ 


How to take action on your goals 

Once you have a great, long list of goals you want to accomplish, it’s time to define them clearly and determine what’s important now and what you might do later or need to research further. 

Rewrite all your list items under three columns with the headings A, B, and C. Items marked A are things you are sure you would like to achieve soon. Items marked B are also significant but you’ll need more time to think about it before you consider making a commitment. The C items are things you feel might be fun or challenging to attempt but you don’t have enough information yet to be sufficiently motivated to upgrade them to the B or A lists. 

Always state your goals in the positive. ‘I will way 60 kilos at the end of June’, for example. Make your goals tangible; test drive the car you want, read a story about the place you want to visit, or volunteer somewhere to get a taste of what your goal will feel like to achieve. 

Next, add a deadline. A deadline is to your goals what the trigger is on a gun. It will force you to move forward and work hard to reach your goal. 


Now, here comes the important part:

Take action. The reason most people don’t do more with their lives is because they are always busy getting ready to get ready. Yesterday you probably said ‘tomorrow’. The right time will never come. Start now. Because now is all you have. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did do.  You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. 

Still want more?

Massive action happens when you invest the time in yourself to plan, be with like-minded people, and invigorate your passion. If you’d like to join Allan and Barbara for the life-changing VIP Weekend, where you can learn, decide, and leave with a plan, then contact us today. 

Your final opportunity to join a VIP Weekend is on 9 & 10 November “The Answer”. 

This is what our VIPs say… 

Brendon and I attended the weekend with the intention to become more clear on our way forward in our business. We have walked away with even more clarity, a spring in our step and solid goals that we are super excited ( and a little scared) to achieve. We also gained a lot of insight into our relationship and how we can support each other even more.  Absolutely priceless what we have gained as a couple and business owners. THANK YOU xx
Emma Walkinshaw

Can’t believe that it was 12 months ago that we were on the beautiful Sunshine Coast at Allan and Barbara Pease retreat. What a life changing weekend that was! During the past 12 months by applying the the rules of the R.A.S. Allan and Barbara shared with us, my life has changed for the better. When I go back to look at my notes and what I wrote in my book a lot of what I had written has actually happened.
Lee Ryan

The VIP Weekend is a weekend to make you think differently, smile, dream, connect and you will walk away with something that will change your life from that day forward. Thank you for shining your light so brightly to show us the way.

It’s honestly the best weekend workshop I’ve attended in my work life.
Craig Kelly 

Limited tickets remain.

If you would like to experience a VIP Weekend, this is your last chance. Please email or call us today. Ph 07 5445 5600 / e: info@peaseinternational.com

The Answer
9 & 10 November, 2019

Spend a life-changing weekend learning from Australia’s most successful authors, internationally renowned speakers, and global entrepreneurs: Allan and Barbara Pease. And ask them the questions that matter to you!

  • How to decide what you want from life 
  • How to program the RAS (reticular activating system) inside your brain to consistently achieve your goals throughout your life
  • How to use affirmations and visualization effectively
  • And, how to overcome obstacles in your life that may be holding you back from achieving your true potential.

In bonus sessions, you’ll also learn powerful relationship and body language skills that will help you create enduring and rewarding relationships in all areas of your life.

AND YOU GET A MONEY CAN’T BUY MENTORING CALL WITH BARBARA PEASE!

If you would like to experience a VIP Weekend, this is your last chance. Please email or call us today. Ph 07 5445 5600 / e: info@peaseinternational.com

Speaking the language of love in the digital age

Allan & Barbara Pease speak the language of relationships. They live and breathe Personal Communication and have made it their life’s work to teach others through their books, seminars and videos that life is Easy Peaseywhen you get along with others. 

So it’s not surprising to these two masters of communication that the digital age has done as much harm to interpersonal relationships as it has good. 

“Recent studies have revealed something disturbing about our new, young screen-watching generation” says Allan.  “Brain scans show they have less connections in their brains for identifying emotions in the face of others than their parents.  This means they are less likely than their parents to know that someone is angry, sad, confident, depressed or interested in them.”

This inability to read between the lines makes a first date (and often even getting to that point) a baffling and embarrassing situation for a lot of people. 

“What we’re finding interesting is we have a lot of young people who are very successful in their work life but belong to a new generation where everybody texts,” says Barbara. 

“They say, ‘I’m really great at texting, but face-to-face – what do I do?’”

The answer, says Allan, is to re-train your brain to read the body language and facial cues of others, and to practice using eye contact effectively. 

“We teach delegates at our VIP Weekends to practice reading expressions in front of a mirror. You might feel silly at first, but you’ll soon see the benefits when you are talking to the opposite sex.”

So what advice does the pair give to help digital devotees to learn the language of love?

The Top 5 Green-Light Signals

  1. Extended eye contact– The longer we look at someone, the more interested we are in them. When the person’s eyes dart from side to side, their brain is searching for escape routes, a sign they’re planning their getaway.
  2. The Head Toss and Hair Flick(Women)- The head is flicked back to toss the hair over the shoulders or away from the face. Even women with short hair will use this gesture. A subtler version may be a quick tuck of the hair.  
  3. Protruding Thumbs and Crotch Displays(Men)- A man will use Protruding Thumbs around women to whom he is attracted. Thumb-Displayers also often rock on the balls of their feet to give the impression of extra height. The Crotch-Displayer plants both feet firmly on the ground, making a clear statement that he has no intention of leaving. He may also turn his body towards her, point his foot at her and hold her gaze for longer than usual. When he’s seated or leaning against a wall, he may spread his legs to display his crotch. 
  4. Touching and affectionate gestures –Touching the hand or elbow, or hugging goodbye for longer than necessary are signs that the other person is serious about you.
  5. Body angling and Proximity– We angle our bodies towards people we’re interested in. In particular, watch out for the angle of the hips and the direction of the feet.  Proximity is another indication that things are going well. A potential partner will decrease the distance between you. If seated, they will lean forward across the table. 

Getting the Approach Right

When it is time to approach someone, walk over without hesitation but with a measured pace similar to a march to demonstrate your confidence and enthusiasm about meeting them. Smile and, if a handshake is offered, keep your palm straight and return the pressure you receive. Introduce yourself and use the other person’s name twice in the first 15 seconds. Never talk for more than 30 seconds at a time.

On a Date

If you’re on a date, try subtly mirroring your companion’s seating position, body angle, gestures and speech patterns. Before long they’ll start to feel that there’s something about you they like and find you ‘easy to be with’. This is because they see themselves reflected in you.

Learning and practicing these body language cues can make all the difference in the early moments of a relationship.  “When we meet people for the first time, we quickly make judgments about their friendliness, dominance and potential as a sexual partner. In fact we form up to 90% of our opinion of their availability and suitability in under 4 minutes,” says Allan. 

With those odds, it’s not surprising to see why attendees at the Pease’s popular V.I.P Weekend retreats are reporting body language and face to face communication skills as their highest priority. 

“There’s no doubt that digital mediums make life easier in a lot of ways. But the question is, are our young people getting the balance right?” asks Allan.

For more, read The Body Language of Love or ask us about our Powerful Relationships VIP Weekend. 

9 Simple Steps for Getting What You Want in Life

Have you ever had a specific goal in mind, but weren’t sure where to start? Do you feel like you’re getting what you want out of life? When you want something, you need a plan on how to get there, which is what my new book “Getting What You Want” is all about! Here is a mini step-by-step version of “how to get what you want” out of life.

1. Decide What You Want

This is most people’s biggest challenge. You’ll never know how to get what you want if you don’t decide what you want. Sit down now and do some thinking on what you really want in your life’s path. Write a list and be as specific as you can be. And the moment you finally decide what you want, the answers will start to become clear on how you will get there. So, step one is to decide what it is that you really want.

2. Avoid Those Who Will Bring You Down

Without realizing it, sometimes friends and family can be the ones who bring you down the most when it comes to getting what you want out of life. Although they often (not always) have good intentions, sometimes their intentions are the opposite of what you have in mind. Just because someone else has given up on their goals doesn’t mean they should bring you down from yours. Make sure that you avoid those people who will bring you down.

3. Keep the Focus

When you’re trying to go toward what you want, it can be easy to get off track. This step comes down to focusing on what you want and avoiding the things you don’t want. It’s easy for others to persuade us down a path we’re not focused on that can get us off track from our goals for many days, months, or years. Write down your goals and keep them where you can see them on a daily basis. Seeing your goals each day will remind you of the path you are on and make it easier for you to identify things that don’t serve your purpose.

4. Love Where You Are

In Western countries, 86% of people hate what they do for a living. Some people are comfortable in their lifestyle and are afraid to change things, even though they’re not in love with what they do. It’s never too late to change your circumstances, even if you’ve been in the same job for years and years. You’re essentially holding yourself back, if you don’t take the time to find a career or position you love.

5. Know Your Worth

Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. What are you going to do with your 24 hours? Before you can get what you want out of those 24 hours, it’s important you know exactly what you want, how to get what you want, and that you know your worth. There will be those voices in your head that try and bring you down, but you have to be smart enough and determined enough to go to heights of greatness. Knowing your worth is one of the keys to succeeding in such a tough world. When someone has something negative to say about you, it’s wise to know exactly who you are and what you want in life!

6. Make It a Career

What if you love doing something and want to make it your career, but don’t know how? If you’re good at something and you think you can potentially make a living doing it, then plan to make it a career. Your friends and family may want to talk you out of turning your passion into a career, but don’t let them stop you. They are probably scared that you may not succeed, and even though they may want what’s best for you, in the end it is your life. You should focus on what makes you happy, not what makes others happy.

7. Know What’s Holding You Back

It’s important to take time to work out what’s holding you back and why you have waited so long to get started on what you really want out of life. Your brain and what you believe about yourself will help determine how far you go in life. Your brain has the power to drive your body towards achieving any goal you have in mind. In the business of knowing what you want out of life, you have to start somewhere. If you can’t determine what’s holding you back, think back to when you were a child and what dreams you had for yourself. Are you living any of those dreams or just trying to make it from paycheck to paycheck? If you’re not happy, that’s a sure fire sign that you’re ready for a change and it’s time to stop letting the “every day” of life hold you back!

8. Discover Your Driving Passion

Deep down inside each one of us, there is a “passion,” which is something you need to drive your dreams and goals home. Know what your passion is. If you don’t want to do something, then don’t waste your time doing it. In the desire to get what you want out of life, it’s important to refuse the negative thoughts pulling you down. Avoid stress at all costs because this can be detrimental to your overall success in life and will most certainly hold you back. Minimizing stress is important because you want to be around people who bring out the best in you, not who bring out the stress in you. Minimize the time with the people who bring you stress and schedule more time around people who bring you happiness.

9. The Qualities of Successful People

Most people are not as successful as they want to be. Why is this? Well, there are certain qualities in successful people. One quality of highly successful people is that they know exactly what they want in life and they don’t need someone to hold their hand. Successful people have no problem determining WHAT they want and don’t get bogged down in the HOW. Successful people also have a plan of action in place, and they’re not naïve enough to think that success will just fall into their laps by twiddling their thumbs. Another quality of successful people is that they keep track of their goals. They write down what they want, keep track of their objectives, and go for them. And finally, successful people go through with what they want despite what others have to say. With the right strategy, succeeding can be simple for anyone. Don’t forget that most successful people also have learned specific success skills. Visualization is one skill that’s important when you want to be successful. This is the art of picturing and imagining what goals you have and what you want to achieve.

What now?

Whether it’s a new career you want or a new goal you want to set for yourself, you have to be willing to do the hard work to get there. You also have to be willing to surpass all of the negativity and overcome all of the roadblocks it takes to get there. If you can do this, there’s no doubt that you will get what you want out of life and more! If you’re in a job that you dislike, now is the time to start planning to get out of it. Being in a job, situation, or career that you can’t stand will burn you out. The stress, negativity, and depressing atmosphere will most certainly keep you from achieving what you want done. When you are finally focused on what you really want out of life, things will start to change and getting what you want out of life will all of the sudden become a lot easier. Now that you’ve recognized that you’re ready for a change, how will you go about this change? Go back to the top of this list. Evaluate your life and determine what you want most. Some people prefer stress and negativity, and so they don’t change a thing. However, if you prefer to get the things you want out of life, then following the advice of successful people is a smart move to make.